Who do you want to go with after retirement travel? Most men answered: Wife; but most women want to go out with good friends and Dingmi. Men should cultivate their interest before retirement, treat their partner well, and wait until they start to change after retirement, which is a bit too late. Many men are very successful in their careers, but they are all young men when they return home.
"Modern people are getting older and stronger, and they bring the time for couples to stay together! This is something we have to learn in this generation. There were no examples in the past, so we can only create them ourselves. Men cannot treat their wives and children in the way their fathers were in the past. After retirement, they must tighten the corners of their wives and children."
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Li Wei was tattooed as a "slant" dental doctor (note), and was curious about "big differences between men and women" when he was young. He reminded that as he grows older, the difference between men and women is so big that he may become a duck if he is not careful. Japan's social and cultural course has been in Taiwan for more than ten years. Will the two sexual relationships after being popular in Japan now have become more common in Japan?
"In fact, I have had many speeches in the past, and the theme is to talk about the couple's relationship that men hear, but guess what, alas, everyone comes to women."
To men: The more successful a man is in his job, the more he loves his wife when he returns home
Li Weiwen mentioned that men and women have great differences in physiology and psychology. With the arrival of super-high society, the time for couples to get along will be longer, so men should be more conscious of crisis; the days after retirement may last for several decades, and whether they have to pass through well or not is very related to their wives.
"Men focus on work, career, and success, but do not cultivate other seniors or interests. After leaving the job, they have to stay at home and cannot help the family, so they feel that it is so good. So I pay attention to male friends: When everyone's physical strength becomes worse, they need a wife even more!"
Li Weiwen mentioned another easily visible "police message".
"Who do you want to go with when traveling after retirement? Most men answered: Wife; but most women want to go out with good friends and Dingmi. Men should cultivate their interest before retirement, treat their partner well, and wait until they start to change after retirement, which is a bit too late. Many men are very successful in their careers, but they are all little men when they return home."
Girls have longer lives and stronger silences, and are objects worth relying on. How can men not cherish their blessings?
Give to women: After 20 or 30 years of marriage, it will be better if you have less "communication"
The highest point of giving men is to be kind to their wife and keep up with their wife's steps; what about giving to women? The answer is: "Don't want to change men."
"The biggest problem for girls is that they are easy to "study". If they are useful, why do you still have to repeat it after more than ten years? One thing that reminds girls is that old couples and wives should never communicate. It has not been useful for you for thirty years, so just give up! Don't recite again."
He added that many people are famous for "study", but they are often lacking in sincerity and lack skills. Because the sincerity of communication is that we want to know each other, but often the idea is that we want to change each other.
"If you don't have enough sincerity, don't communicate." Li Weiwen said that when many girls mention "Let's communicate", they make boys feel very stressful. Because communication requires ability and skills, otherwise you do not understand the other party’s true mood, communication will instead give each other more affection. Many marriages of 20 or 30 years often end up in serious conflicts after communication. The rift between the two parties makes each other more panic and behave more extremely.
"The longer the couple stays together, the more they know where the pain is. It is easy to turn over the old account when they quarrel, but everyone has soft and untouchable places in their hearts, maybe childhood, family... big or small. We should respect them. Even if we are close friends, we should not touch them. Some things can be joked about, and some things cannot be. Sometimes when they encounter them, they are like landmines, which cannot be recovered."
Li Weiwen asked a familiar female friend to think about it. Understanding the other party is different from changing the other party. Do you really want to know the other party? "Unless he really wants to change, it's been so long since. I have never seen any examples of communication being successful."
For men and women: Old couples should get their "feelings" back
"Since he was chosen by you from the public, the part he used to motivate you was created by you together, and there must be a moment of understanding and understanding. It's just that life is busy, and life is day by day, and after having children, I focus on teaching. , couples are prone to lacking "common feelings". Until the empty nest period, they think that the other party is so worried. In fact, when the child grows up, it is a good time for you to love again. Then create a "heartfelt feeling." "
Li Weiwen sorted out the key points for everyone, whether it is men and women who have finished reading it, please do it yourself! Everyone says marriage requires business, and there are these methods:
1. The more friends you have, the less likely you will be to divorce
"Martial pals will participate in the activities of mutual friends together! Among a group of people, you can tell what the other party is about to attract them at the beginning. It is not easy for couples to divorce, and they will not divorce if they are familiar. I think that the more good friends you have, the less likely you will divorce.. ”
2. Couples create new memories and experiences together
"Two people go to places they have never been to, do things they have never done, and experience and share them together. This is an opportunity to re-know the other party. Because the brain is very interesting, when we learn and experience new things, we will have new ideas and rekindle our passion for our partner."
3. Appreciate the other party and do things that touch the other party
"Maybe because I am too familiar with it, I always feel that I am "our own people". I might as well create something that will make the other party move and be happy, such as saying sweet words and occasionally doing some attentive recitation. We know that the other party is telling us that we like, but we are happy in our hearts."
Li Weiwen, who laughed at her real one, has been going on for decades, and has published books and lectured hundreds of scenes every year, sharing his thoughts and practices about marriage. He believes that familiarity can still regain romantic feelings, but he also tried to be a companion worthy of appreciation!
Note: Li Weiwen is a dental doctor, a writer and environmental protection volunteer, and has established a wilderness protection association with friends.
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